It is the parenting model of many Chinese parents that mothers go to work after childbirth and then give their children to the elderly at home. But are the elderly at home really competent to educate their children? Some of their educational ideas and practices are actually misleading to children and even lead them astray.
We can't deny that the old man is doing his best when he takes the baby, but because of a series of intergenerational raising concepts, there will be a lot of right and wrong.
In particular, if some elderly people hang their lips when they bring their baby, they are not coaxing children but they are easy to destroy children. Do n’t forget to remind them of this.
Where can the old man usually take the baby? It's nothing more than a supermarket or a park. You must have seen such a scene: the children went to the supermarket to see a variety of snacks, jelly, biscuits, various dried fruits, etc., could not help drooling.
Normally at this time, the mother will stop the child and teach the child that he can't eat it because he didn't pay. The child's performance The old man sees in his eyes, and out of distressing the child, he may be tempted to reach out for it:
① What are you afraid of? Try one and try what one has to do!
Because of this behavior, the child may take it for granted that it does n’t matter if you eat one, and you do n’t have much to take.
The child accidentally hit the table and fell down. Many old people picked up the crying child. The first sentence was:
② Hit it, the table is not good!
It is never a normal way to teach a child to fall on the table.
It will make children right and wrong. When they grow up, they often push their mistakes and faults to an objective environment or others. Children who grow up in this environment are often not good at self-summation and correction, and it is easy to become self-deceiving. people!
The most worrying thing about the elderly when they bring their children is their indifference to "rule consciousness". When the children make mistakes, their parents blame education. When the child looks displeased, the old man looks distressed in his eyes and blurts out:
③ What are you doing with your children!
Over time, the child's tears become a "free gold medal" that resists parents' blame after making mistakes, allowing the child to give birth to any wrong consciousness that any mistake is trivial.
You know, the children are little princesses and little princes at home. There is really no risk. But neither parents nor grandparents have the power to prevent social survival rules. When children's values conflict with social rules, it is often the individual who suffers.